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Shirking Responsibility

November 15, 2011

In the past, I’ve found ways to shirk responsibility.  It all started with girls.  In fact, one girl in particular in high school.   There I was, standing there minding my own business when this girl walks up to me in the cafeteria and says with the utmost conviction and gumption “We have slept together.”

Stunned silence on my part.  I believe my mouth was hanging open as I stared at her, looking her up and down.  My first thought was – who the hell are you?  Honestly, I had never laid eyes on her in high school and I knew that I didn’t go to elementary school with her.  My second thought was – please god no, do not let her be pregnant!

The next words out of her mouth were, “In fact, we have shared a bed together on many occasions.”  My stance changed to the defensive, peering deep into her eyes and thinking “I have no clue who you are” then glaring at the few people who had gathered around us, seeing if I could garner any clues as to her identity.

Nothing.

A cold sweat permeated my body.  More people were looking over at our small group; pointing, whispering.  I fully expected someone to wheel in a baby carriage and for her to launch into the full blown antics that I had witnessed on Jerry Springer – only this time there was no Steve to break things up.  I knew I had to do it.  I never imagined that at the age of 17 I would be in this situation.

“I’m terribly sorry, we may have slept together, but I seem to have forgotten your name.”

Thank you Jennifer.  It turns out that we had slept together.   On many different occasions.  And we thoroughly enjoyed each other’s company and played with each other for hours.

As toddlers.  Over 15 years ago.

Jenn had just switched over to my high school and her mom had told her to look me up.  We had a few mutual friends that were in on it and from that point on I never looked at women and responsibility the same way again.  I figured that I had dodged one bullet, so let’s see how many others I can dodge.

It took me another 12 years to figure out that my behaviour was hurting not only myself, but those that I cared about as well.  I had created this wonderful behavioural pattern around shirking responsibility – being accountable to no one except myself (and I was not hard on myself either) and it was beginning to show to those around me.  I had started the 31 Day Sprint as a way to hold myself publicly accountable for my successes and failures and it was not until today when I fell back into my old habit that I realized that something more drastic had to be done (hence this post).

I’ll admit that right now I’m struggling with the shift in focus from marketing activities to sales activities.  I know that this week and next week I will overachieve on my daily numbers but it will be the weekly numbers that will hurt the most – units sold, sales volume (in terms of $$), and income (%age).  I will fail miserably at achieving a sustainable level of sales activities to translate into income.  I expect this failure knowing that I will use it to learn and adapt and figure out a way to turn it into a success.

I’ve been in business too long for myself without having to produce a weekly income that drastic measures have to be taken – I have no choice but to continue to break my behavioural pattern.  Wednesday morning when I wake up I will do the two things that I fear most – only because these two activities will help me become successful – workout for an hour and call my clients and business associates.  I’ve relied far too long on technology (email, social media, etc) and I’ve been content with the mediocre results for far too long.  Now is the time to overachieve.  Now is the time to get results.

Hard numbers for today – 67 (12 over daily average)

Marketing – 62
Sales – 3
FLH – 2 (0 fitness, 1 hobby, 1 life)

When I wake up, it will be a new day.  I relish the opportunity for another woman to give me the opportunity to dodge more bullets – just not when it comes to those that I care about most.

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A Great Event For A Great Cause

March 30, 2011

No rest for the weary.  After making it back to Toronto from Sendai, Japan, Scot and two other Canadians are hosting a night to raise money for those who have lost their homes and loved ones in the earthquake and tsunami.  All proceeds from the event will go to Habitat For Humanity.

Stories From Sendai

Cover: $15 – includes a free drink ticket

DJ: K 2the C

Dance Crew: Supernaturalz

Raffle:  Prizes include Toronto FC tickets (VIP!), Raptors tickets, Getaway For 2 To Niagara Falls and much more.

Japanese and Canadian food

Great beer – Steam Whistle Pilsner

Location: Steam Whistle Brewery

If you are heading to the Blue Jay’s home opener, you should consider walking for two minutes to the Roundhouse to join us for our event.  It will be amazing and will go to support Habitat For Humanity to help people rebuild their lives and homes in the areas hardest hit by the earthquake and tsunami in Japan.

For more information, please visit www.storiesfromsendai.com

Attract and Keep The Brightest

January 4, 2011

When I’m talking about the brightest, I’m referring to employees.  Too many companies do not provide the right incentives to attract and keep the best fit person for the job that they have open in their organization.  My first recommendation to anyone – go out and hire the best HR firm that you can find to help put a plan together for your organization.  Failing to do that, here are a few things to keep in mind.

  1. Money does motivate, but it’s not interesting.  Having the highest paid salary in your industry is the equivalent of selling based on price – at some point in time a competitor will offer a lower price (or in this case a higher salary).
  2. Figure out your culture.  Google “workplace culture” and figure out where your organization fits.
  3. Perks and benefits.  Find something that falls within your budget.  If your budget is zero, make sure you find a reason to say “thank you” every single day.

Here are a few ideas that have popped up in several studies over the years that employees have said that they value over money:

  • A sense of purpose that employees can believe in and relate to,
  • Extremely good two-way communication systems,
  • An emphasis on making people feel appreciated,
  • Rewards and recognition for superior performance and meeting goals,
  • Regular and meaningful training,
  • Flexible scheduling and vacation time; and,
  • An opportunity to advance.

Hit Google again and look up “creative workplace rewards”.  You may be surprised what you find.


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